Lupita, In Color

Go onto Google and type in the letter “L”, then “U”, then “P” in its search box, the name “lupita nyong’o” instantly pops up, which helps because I always seem to forget where the apostrophe belongs in her last name. Lupita Nyong’o is a Yale graduate, actress and should-be model! She has been what everyone has been talking about – from celebs, to stylists to viewers at home. The Kenyan beauty came into the scene in her nominated role in 12 Years a Slave and has been owning it since then! Lupita has been making her mark in the fashion industry, constantly and pleasantly surprising everyone with her effortless looks and natural beauty. She has even been featured and has graced the covers of several major magazines such as Dujour, Vogue Italia and Vanity Fair.


Photo: Reuters, Invision, FilmMagic via

This is my first post I ever really dedicated to a celebrity. The ones prior to this one are simply because I just had the opportunity to meet them. This time around, it’s different. Though I love Lupita and all her fabulous-ness, it’s not exactly all about her right now. I have some pieces of you in here…some pieces of me in here, too. You see, I wasn’t aware of my skin color until the 8th grade.

You’re probably wondering what in the world I’m talking about. Don’t I see myself in the mirror? Don’t I have eyes… period? The answer to those questions is a simple and obvious “yes”. You’re asking now, “So, what do you mean you weren’t aware of your skin color until the 8th grade?” Well, I mean, I didn’t know skin color played such a big deal in society.

In 8th grade, a guy with a lighter skin tone decided he was going to open his mouth and bless me with his ignorance by calling me “Darky”. He explained to me that I wasn’t “that dark”, but I was just “more brown” than he was, as if that justified the little nickname he gave me. Later on, I found out that he had the biggest crush on me. I guess the little nick name he pegged me was supposed to be a gesture of love? Shaking. My. Head. Right?

That still didn’t change the fact that when I went home after middle school, I didn’t see myself the same. I didn’t struggle with low self-esteem, I knew I was beautiful and it wasn’t because my parents told me…TRUST 😉 But, I did start to notice that the women on television, magazines, billboards and all of that…they just didn’t look like me. We have celebrities of lighter tones and the darker ones bleaching their skin to be in the limelight. We are taught that the lighter shade is more preferable and media surely doesn’t help. I was thrown into the world of “light skin is in”. After I graduated middle school and on, I started hearing heated arguments of “Light Skin vs Dark Skin”. Oh, and excuse me, I mustn’t forget: there’s a “Light Skin vs. Brown Skin vs Dark Skin” debate going on, too. THE MOST CRAZIEST PART IS: it is not the Caucasian community helping inflict self- hate – it is the African-American community! Even with Black History Month here! It amazes me how we have come this far and we are arguing over menial, dismissive topics such as skin color.

You know what? I’m going to tell you of the most ignorant things I have heard in the year of 2014 (mind you, it just began). My cousin comes over and tells me of school drama that happened that day. They had a substitute in Math class, so they decided to do what they wanted to, which was obnoxiously listen to music and glide through Instagram and Facebook. Typical. A girl (we’ll call her Girl A) stops scrolling and points out how amazing another girl pictured on Facebook looked. She later explains that the cause of why the girl appears so beautiful is due to the simple fact that she is “light skinned”. This begins a whole argument in class, which gets worse when Girl A says that lighter skin is better because “back in the day”, they would have been in the house with their “mulatto babies” whereas darker skin would be out in the fields. Girl B refutes, “Well, you still would have been a slave and the master’s wife would have hated you”.


There are millions of girls out there with low self-esteem. The pigmentation of one’s skin is one more of the things that they are struggling to accept. Pointless fights like these makes it even harder to deal with in a society that promotes the European standard of beauty. I don’t know. It must be my eyes but last time I checked, “Black” is marked as the race of light and dark skin. There wasn’t a box for the 50 Shades of Black. But, we’re over here arguing over color. Shaking. My. Head. Again and again and again.

But, let me wrap this up…

Ya know, in a way, I thank my school mate for opening my eyes. I get to treasure the bold colors of women like singer Kelly Rowland, model Tika Sumpter, and actress Nia Long, to name a few. Now, we all have Lupita Nyong’o (YES! I got the last name right without even looking it up).

And, so, thank you, Lupita, for not altering your appearance to be what society has already donned as beautiful. Your love for yourself is inspiring. You unabashedly exuberate confidence and poise – I have a smile of radiant hope reserved for even just looking at you.

LUPITAgorge Photo:

Look at her, isn’t she gorgeous?

Also, I want to hear from you! Tell me who inspires you despite society’s norms. They don’t have to be Black! Haha. Or, just let me know what you thought of this post. Thanks for reading!

55 thoughts on “Lupita, In Color

  1. Aini Hapsari says:

    It is even funnier here in Asia when people (from the same race!) discriminate each other according to their skin color. Indeed, it is soooo unecessary.

    But lately i’ve also been seeing a good sign by people like Lupita and other diversely beautiful figures who are able to steal the spotlight. I think it’s a sign that slowly but surely, the society are becoming ready to fully embrace diversity 🙂

    • tarahsaint says:

      Wow, that’s ridiculous! Discrimination on skin color in Asia? How is that like?

      And, yes, I do agree…society is learning to accept diversity. However, I feel the issue is that society is learning to accept diversity they like…A pick and choose type of thing.

      • Aini Hapsari says:

        it’s nothing really serious that includes basic rights or anything like that, but asians with darker skin –for some unknown reason– are considered to be less desirable and are more likely to receive mockery than the other with lighter skin.

  2. ashley says:

    When I saw Lupita at the Globes and the SAG awards she was RADIANT. The fact that skin color is still something debated over is insane to me.. everyone should be free to be themselves. I loved this post. xx

  3. My Fashion S/ash Life says:

    Lupita is flawless, absolutely flawless! She is such a breadth of fresh air to the industry and world at large, we need to see this kind of beauty being praised far and wide. However, I am v. keen to see what her new film role will be. I really feel it will be won where she has to wear extensions which for me is totally cool: but for others it may be seen as ‘leaving the cause’ and I see potential backlash…

    • tarahsaint says:

      Wow, I don’t really find it a big deal if she wears the extensions. I’m just happy that the media is acceptant of how she is without it…ebony complexion and all…thanks for commenting!

  4. Christina says:

    Great Post! I think she is absolutely stunning and oh so chic! I swear that girl could wear a paper bag and make it the next big thing.
    However it upset’s me that we are living in the year of 2014 and we are still having these debates. Even SNL has a new cast member and papers named her the first black women cast member in six years. Why can’t we all be like hey SNL has a new member who is supper funny. This society that we are still stuck constantly has to use these phrase. People are people we all have the same bones and organs, we are human beings. We are using this template and people are still accepting. First (*insert race, sexuality, etc.) to be the next big thing!
    Just crazy to me.


  5. RAW. (@OhThatsNik) says:

    Congrats and wonderful post! She is absolutely beautiful but I am already tired of people discussing her skin color. Can’t she just be a beautiful and amazing actress and that’s it? Does discussing her skin color make her more accepting to society so society can say “Hey look we like a dark skinned woman!” Again great post and wonderful conversation piece!

    Oh That’s Nik

    • tarahsaint says:

      Thanks! And, thank you for reading 🙂 Your viewpoint is understandable. In this society, we just have to recognize and accept that color is of importance even when it comes to compliments!

  6. Victoria says:

    Wow, I am surprised that conversation goes on even within the black community. But I guess it is part of a larger societal issue that causes those conversations to bubble up in the first place. You are beautiful the way you are!

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