Blogging Makes Me Feel Like Crap

Sometimes.

Okay, okay, let me reword this…

Nope. There’s no other way to say it! Blogging makes me feel like crap, sometimes. And I’m just keeping it real with you all.

Picture a young woman in bed, spending hours cruising through the many sites of her favorite top bloggers and finding herself comparing and getting discouraged in result.

Getting discouraged of what, exactly? Of the bloggers’ big brand collaborations, their large audiences, their travels and their reach-through-the-computer-screen-and-touch-the blogger photo quality – yes, megapixels on fleek (my sister taught me that term)!

It’s discouraging. Point blank period.

I’ve been meaning to post this post for awhile now. It’s literally been just sitting in my drafts because I didn’t know how to form my thoughts. But now I’m here writing whatever that comes to mind because hey, it’s my blog and typing it out will help me make sense of it for myself.

I know I’m not the only one that has felt this way.

We all have dreams, goals, aspirations and whatever you want to call it. And so when you see someone that seemingly has what you want, your mood shifts. You feel this low and it’s a low that’s almost untouchable and almost incurable. The thoughts racing through your head are: how will I get there (where you want to be) and when will I get there?

It’s even worse when you don’t know your purpose (but that’s a post for another time).

I’ve been there but I just wanted to say, don’t stay there.Β Of course you’ll compare. It’s completely natural to do so, but just be aware of when you do so.

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IΒ posted this quote two years ago on my Instagram and it just came to mind because it’s so obviously relevant when we live in a world where it’s too easy to access the beautifully and “perfectly “pictured lives of high profiled bloggers/figures.

I decided to finally just post this draft is because I came across a post on Brown Girl Bloggers that instructs how to compare yourself to other bloggers. There was also another post about stopping the comparisons (which is kinda contradictory) but gives tips on how to be a more confident blogger.

What I’m getting at is…Don’t allow what you love to stem off into discouragement, envy, jealousy, etc.

You’re not the only one who feels down about this blogging thang sometimes. And so when you do, you just need someone to relate to, to reevaluate yourself or simply take a break! One thing you don’t need is to wallow in those negative feelings.

Remember:

Proverbs 14: 30 –Β A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.

 

 

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50 thoughts on “Blogging Makes Me Feel Like Crap

  1. Kierra says:

    this so so spot of for my life right now! I get so hard on myself for not having the perfect blogging technique or having all the amazing technology and skills. I have to realize it’s one day at a time and appreciate how far I’ve come. Nice to know another blogger can relate!

  2. Lmg Brown says:

    I’ve been thinking about this myself lately but I don’t really feel down about it as long as I know I’m doing my best. Seeing successful and popular blogs inspires me mostly xx

  3. pinklacepearls says:

    Totally understand girl! And also I’ve realized it’s a dramatic and caddy world, sadly. All you can do is keep at it because you love it and your hard work will pay off πŸ™‚ Xo

  4. Raul Cortes Jr. says:

    I understand how you feel, stay encouraged. To be greatly-viewed as elite by the world comes with a price. Remember, the bible says if you delight yourself in the LORD, he will give you the desires of your heart. -Peace sis

  5. sincerelywhitney says:

    theres ups theres downs and theres all the in-betweens. in a world where everyone seems to be a part of this scene in one way or another its so hard to keep steady and set yourself apart. the important part is knowing where you want to be and never letting that go. youre awesome! i think your post was great and so inspirational to so many others!
    xo whit! =)

  6. Alex says:

    It definitely can have that effect. I like this quote “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle or end”. And yeah for some of us it might take longer (like me) to get where we want, but I’ve found if you stay on track, one step at a time, you can achieve what you set out to do. It takes some practise especially in a world that thrives on comparism.

    Alex – Funky Jungle

  7. Samantha Chua says:

    Love this post! I think social media and blogs have become our “resume” of some form where we only present our best self forward. I suppose some bloggers, myself included, view our blogs as a temporary escape from the hum-drum of life. Hence why it is hard not to feel discouraged and plunge into self-doubt when you see bloggers who seem to be living the jet-set, glamorous life wearing pretty clothes with their ridiculously good-looking partners who are also photographers (the stars seemed to aligned so well for them!), while you’ve just finished your 12 hours shift in a dead-end job and trying to get more followers in order to achieve the lifestyle that you aspire in those bloggers – believe me, you’re not alone in this πŸ˜‰

    I’ve blogged about this dilemma too at a moment of frustration.. http://www.samanthachua.com/2014/05/confessions-of-z-list-blogger.html

    But 9 months since then my passion for writing prevailed and I am finally getting some traction on my blog…It is a true testament to your post. Thanks for making me feel one-less-lonely-person in navigating the world of blogging

    Sam xx

  8. aleyarion says:

    Yasss, just yasss! I actually took a brief break from my blog for this very reason! But I’m back at it now. Just going to look to other blogger as inspiration, not some figure that I must measure up to. Well said, great post. Keep it up!

  9. Madame Ostrich says:

    Hi Tarah! This post is so true, and I couldn’t have read it at a better time. It get so frustrating sometimes when you compare yourself to others–trying to decode why it is that some bloggers get their big break so “easily” and others don’t. It also gets frustrating too trying to balance work/blog/life, knowing you could always be doing “more.” It’s nice to know that others feel this way!

    XxMO
    madame-ostrich.com

  10. Meli Pennington (@wildbeauty) says:

    I get the same feeling! I get discouraged looking at sites that I know have a staff of ten or more people. Why? I just want my site to be good – but comparisons can be so destructive.

    I forget who said it: “Don’t compare others’ highlight reel to your own blooper reel.” And yet….

    • tarahsaint says:

      I heard something like that before! And that’s so true, no matter how many times you try not to, it’s easier to do so! It’s more harmful, though. You just have to practice it before it feels real.

  11. Maggie A says:

    You definitely aren’t the only one who has felt this way! I’ve definitely experienced this before. What got me through was the thought that no one else has my vision or my voice so I have to get it out there for someone else who may share my opinion or ideas. πŸ™‚

  12. Joanna says:

    I think we (aspiring bloggers) all experience those feelings you’re talking about along the way. I think it’s completely natural. What’s more, I think it sometimes can be a positive thing; it’s not about putting yourself down, but I believe we can always learn something new. For instance, when I see another blogger’s beautiful photos, I try to figure out what makes them so unique and how I can improve mine. I’m aware I can’t afford a super-professional camera right now, but that’s not the only thing that makes for a good photo, right? I’ve also heard a saying ‘Don’t compare someone’s chapter 20 to your chapter 1’ and I think it’s so true! The blogger you’re comparing yourself to often has come a long way to get where they are, so be patient. What’s more, they may have those pierce photos, but you have a great writing style that can make someone feel jealous, too πŸ™‚ Good luck with your blog!

    http://stylestandpoint.com

    • tarahsaint says:

      Wow, thank you for your response! I really enjoyed reading and I completely agree. I heard that quote as well – the one about comparing your chapter 1 to someone’s chapter 20. Thanks for the encouragement and I will surely check out your blog!

  13. Sheela Goh says:

    I completely agree and empathise. It’s the reason I stopped blogging for over a year, I only started writing again last September. Intimidation comes in many forms and for most bloggers, it’s peer envy. We’re proud of how far bloggers have come in terms of industry cred but by the same token, it’s hard to not covet what the successful ones have πŸ™‚ I do believe though, at the risk of sounding clichΓ©d, good things come to those who persevere. In the last 5 odd months, through consistent blogging, I’ve seen such a huge leap in the number of followers that my faith has been restored. True, I may never have my own talkshow or see my face on a billboard but I’m glad for where I am now because it can only be the beginning of more good things. So too for you. You write eloquently and honestly, and that can but lead to good things for you as well. I mean the sheer fact that you’ve had 24 posts featured in the IFB Round-Up is an achievement of epic proportions. All the best.

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