Finishing freshman year has taught me a lot. Lessons on branching out, learning about yourself and most importantly: differentiating between who’s real and who’s not.
On my first day at Stockton, I found myself in a state of mind I never thought possible – antisocial. I didn’t know a soul and felt so out of place in South Jersey.
I was freaking out. I had no clue what was wrong with me. I prayed and it began to sound like repetitive lyrics because I wasn’t confident. I was so scared to leave my room. I called Tarah and she said, “Are you serious? Shut up and go outside. You’re just homesick.”
Me, of all people. The girl who basically ran to school with her bags of luggage? The first step is acceptance and that I did. Once I realized that the only way to get comfortable was to be myself and make friends, I was perfectly fine. I didn’t want to have my guard up or seem too “picky” gaining the friendships, so my lists of contacts grew and grew.
Soon I had so many friends and new memories. Having a huge group to hang out with gave me a false sense of security. I had a “this” friend and a “that” friend, people for occasions instead of actual relationships. Slowly the weight was too much.
FACT: You are not fed the same meal as the person forced onto you during orientation.
Translation: We all have different upbringings. I lost my appetite watching how careless and rude people could be. It was overwhelming trusting people for the side they decided to show me. True colors began to show and I started to distance myself from the drama. I lost some friends and I wasn’t upset about it. The people I was meant to remain friends with, stuck around. I constantly kept in mind, “Would I be friends with you if I was back home?”
I had my own remedy for homesickness and it’s to keep company that remind you where you came from.
It’s important to step out of your comfort zone but never compromise who you are or add unnecessary drama. It isn’t worth it, especially in such an important stage of your life. I was always told that “everyone” in college was mature but that is FAR from the truth. You can’t put too much on your plate – college is stressful enough.
Popular culture has a tendency to solely focus on gaining a couple pounds instead of negative influences. While it is important to stay active, seek out healthy relationships that motivate you to be better. You have to be able to remain true to yourself and that is the only way to steer clear of the extra carbs.
How’s that for brain food?
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