Selfishness < Self-Care

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by Medgina Saint-Elien

Remember that dramatic stage we all went through in middle school? The super exaggerated emotions and actions we took when trying to express ourselves (i.e: wearing all black on V-Day)?

I’ve always felt that way about Valentine’s Day. I may sound like a Debbie Downer but I didn’t see why it was such a big deal.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m a hopeless romantic. Hardcore, hands down, I’ll fully admit it.

My problem with Valentine’s Day is what it’s been made out to be. Corny and commercialized. It’s all about finding someone to love you and if you don’t, it’s a huge problem that needs immediate solution. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be loved, it’s a natural response. BUT why can’t loving yourself be enough for once?

This post is for those who want so much yet don’t know themselves. I’m talking of identity and measuring your worth. In an age of hunting for approval and looking for love in all the wrong places, you have to stop to consider yourself. It isn’t selfish, it’s self-care.

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#goals | Medgina’s Musings


by Medgina Saint-Elien

Hey guys! I hope everyone had an amazing start to the New Year.

One of the first things I thought of doing was writing down a list of goals that I want to achieve for the year and would help me in the future too.

I have a love/hate relationship with “goals” because it’s become a movement and not in a positive “go get ‘em tiger” way.

A girl posts a picture of her hair. #goals. A guy posts the details of what a perfect girlfriend would be. #goals. A litter of puppies in a basket. #goals. Do you catch my drift?

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justbeheldRemember that childhood song, “He’s got the whole world in His hands?” It started out with God holding the whole world in His hands, and then went into how He has you and me in His hands, and sisters and brothers, tiny babies, and just all of us! He has the whole world in His hands.

God in all His mighty, in all His busyness thinks of the tiniest creatures and lovingly holds and tends them. Reflecting back, I’m realizing the simple song held so much power. It was a small declaration that availed to much.

In a world where the hustle and bustle is the norm, when do you ever take rest? You have this to do and that and you have to “glo up” and then you have to climb the ladder to success. You have to go to work, go to school, go to church. You have a doctor appointment, you have to take your child to school, you have to finish up on a special project. You have all these things to do and so you stuff them into your day, hoping they’ll all fit. No – you make sure everything all fits and then you do the same thing the next day and the next.

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Do Not Conform


I had trouble coming up with a title for this post. I wanted to play on words with alliteration (you know I love my English literary terms lol). It was initially supposed to be “Denim Denim Denim” – you know, in the Super Mario Bros voice haha and then I was like “hm, okay I’m almost always playful. What words could I share with my readers?”

Since this is a style post, I thought to talk trends. I typically don’t adopt “what’s in” – I see what I like and make it my own. You all know I love jumpsuits, so I definitely couldn’t resist this denim one – and I don’t even wear denim! But anyway, I wanted to elaborate more on what a trend is – not just in the sense of clothes.

“Trend” is defined as a “change or develop in a general direction.” In other words, it’s a currently adopted custom. It’s what’s in now. It’s a widely held belief.

It’s abstract but the first verse that came to my mind is Romans 12:2. “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”

Just because you are in the world, doesn’t mean you are of it. As Christians, we have to realize that the atmosphere we’re living in will lead people away from God. We must be conscious of our surroundings. We must be able to realize the way in which we are being influenced. There’s a reason why we’re not doing what everyone else is doing. If an unbeliever can’t tell if you’re a Christian or not, there’s a problem!

Do not conform. Trends are temporary but the word of God lives forever. Just because the world may adopt a belief, doesn’t mean you have to. Just because they call you names and the seemingly majority tells you that you’re wrong, doesn’t change that God’s ways are always right. Be aware of the atmosphere we are in and be conscious of the world’s influence. Have a backbone in the faith! In all of your life, restrain from judgement and wholeheartedly display the love and truth that Christ placed in you to share.

In the midst of all these changes in the world, I’d like to leave you with a quote from Rick Warren:

“Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle. You must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.”

Necklace – ALDO

Shoes – Windsor Fashions

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