You Should Go & Love Yourself

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I’ve been a Belieber since his very first single EVER and been waiting to quote this song soooo judge me if you may! And as much as I’m a huge fan of the Biebs, I’m a huge fan of Valentine’s Day too so…

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!

I know, I know. It was yesterday. BUT I didn’t get to tell you yesterday so I’m saying so now! Happy V-Day 😉

I’m the girl that’s been dressing up in red, or pink, or purple just because I looooove the holiday. I’m the complete opposite of my sister who typically dons dark colors on this festive day.

One thing we do have in common is that we see the holiday as a reason to go out and treat yoself!

And hey, if you have a man, let him treat you.

It isn’t just about you, though. Use this day everyday to go out and show kindness to somebody. Compliment someone today. Give your friend a random hug! Smile at a stranger. Tell your close ones how much you love them.

I won’t apologize for my enthusiasm; Valentine’s Day has always made me giddy! And that should be you smiling – with or without a Valentine. It’s a celebration of love and it’s a celebration of us! And when I mean us, I mean you, me, everyone. It’s a special day.

So psst! In case you haven’t heard it yet, you are beautiful and you are loved. Don’t forget, okay?

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Selfishness < Self-Care

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by Medgina Saint-Elien

Remember that dramatic stage we all went through in middle school? The super exaggerated emotions and actions we took when trying to express ourselves (i.e: wearing all black on V-Day)?

I’ve always felt that way about Valentine’s Day. I may sound like a Debbie Downer but I didn’t see why it was such a big deal.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m a hopeless romantic. Hardcore, hands down, I’ll fully admit it.

My problem with Valentine’s Day is what it’s been made out to be. Corny and commercialized. It’s all about finding someone to love you and if you don’t, it’s a huge problem that needs immediate solution. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be loved, it’s a natural response. BUT why can’t loving yourself be enough for once?

This post is for those who want so much yet don’t know themselves. I’m talking of identity and measuring your worth. In an age of hunting for approval and looking for love in all the wrong places, you have to stop to consider yourself. It isn’t selfish, it’s self-care.

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Deck the Halls | Medgina’s Musings

deck the haulsHello, it’s me.

I’m the girl you attacked on Black Friday. Don’t you remember? While you were throwing clothes on the floor and pushing people out of the way, I stood there with a coupon in my hand and smile plastered onto my face.

I’m writing this letter to express how happy I am to work on the holidays :)…

That was my customer service facade.

Now, here’s the truth – why do we have to act like extra’s in a Hunger Games movie whenever there are deals for the holidays? You just had a Thanksgiving meal!

This was the first time I worked on Black Friday and I had hope. Yeah, the videos that surface of customers getting trampled and employees in survival mode are intense but I honestly believed it wouldn’t be that bad. The crowd outside the store was huge but I trusted in all of you to be the anomaly.

I understand my role as an employee for sure. It’s all about the customer but that doesn’t mean that I suddenly serve as a punching bag (literally…for some).

The doors opened and the madness ensued.

Why did you toss merchandise on the floor? Why did you get angry at me for the prices like it was my fault?

Black Friday was rough. Traumatic even. Thankfully, I believe in second chances so this Christmas, I’m going to give you tips on how to give the best presents without ripping my hair- sorry your hair out 🙂

1. Shop online.
2. Read number one. Do you know how much easier it is to shop online? You receive amazing deals and unique finds that you wouldn’t find in the store.
3. Be creative and do something for the person that they’ll appreciate.
4. Calculate the hours in the day where the store of choice won’t be ridiculously busy.

To anyone who has ever worked during the holidays, you have my respect and condolences. I see you and recognize that sometimes, you took on roles that were not in your job description. You held your tongue when someone gave you a bad attitude and kept your shoes on even when your feet were screaming.

Real MVP’s.

I hope we can take a step back and realize the purpose of holidays: spreading warmth and cheer. Don’t get lost in the hype, or find yourself waiting in long lines and not knowing how you ended up with ten bags in your hands. You will find the perfect gift and truthfully, it doesn’t have to be bought all the time.

Much love,
Medge

HOLIDAY LOOKS | W/ SHOPBOP

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I hope you all had a great Thanksgiving!

I can’t believe the holidays are already upon us! It’s my favorite time of year. First, stuffing our faces and reflecting on what you’re grateful for, then celebrating the gift of Christ!  Oh, and if you call Black Friday a holiday, I guess you can squeeze that in there, too.

I collaborated with SHOPBOP to share with you my favorite holiday looks! Of course when you think of the holidays, the two primary colors you go for are red and green. I chose to go with 3 green dresses that you can get inspo from to wear to your holiday dinner, banquets and/or parties!

The first dress is one of my favorites. These kind of dresses look the best on petite women so if you’re short, this one’s for you! It compliments your chest, slims your waist and gives you hips!

The second dress is more elegant. It’s perfect for Christmas service at church. I love it’s straight line – this type of dress elongates your body!

Ahhhh this third dress is absolutely gorgeous. Extravagant, yes. But super necessary for the holidays. It’s perfect for a gala, banquet or any formal event. I love the constructed shape; it gives the illusion of origami. What do you think?

For more holiday dresses, search no further! Shopbop’s got ya.

 

 

Grand Old Flag

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Hey guys! Before I begin, thank you so much for the support and positive response to my last post! Anyway, it’s officially summer and the 4th of July called for celebration as per usual. With the national pride in mind, I thought of my own roots and ancestry.

As a child of immigrant parents, it’s really easy to simply be “American” and forget that there is so much more to me that I have yet to know.

In elementary school, my classmates made it seem like I was wrong for being Haitian as if America isn’t a huge melting pot. Growing older, (with the feisty attitude I had), I embraced my roots but didn’t actually understand it.

Kids can be J E R K S (surprise) and will try to make others feel bad for the things they cannot change such as race. Take that Rachel Dolezal! I attempted to invent myself the way any typical teenager would, adopting what I learned outside instead of listening to what my parents had to tell me. Continue reading

Loving Love

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I love love! So whenever Valentine’s Day comes around, I can’t help but wear the typical pinks, reds, and purples and be in a gushy, giddy mood. Even when I was single, I was never a VDay hater lol maybe it was my upbringing in my faith. No, not maybe – definitely! I’m surrounded by love daily and I’m constantly reminded of the Ultimate Love of all:  sweet sweet Jesus! Get it? Sweet? (Yes, I chuckle at my own jokes.)

I traveled back to Jersey to celebrate the holiday with my hunay. It was a long bus ride (about 4.5 hours) but it was soooo worth it. I haven’t seen Paul in over a month! *cues tears* It felt surreal to be not just with him, but my family. I missed them so much!

On to the good stuff. I spent the first half of my VDay with my mom. The quality time was much needed and we appreciated each other’s company (I’m a momma’s girl, guys.)

The second half of my day was spent with Paul! I had no clue what he was planning until we reached the stables.  Yup, he surprised me with a horseback lesson!!! Mind you, he didn’t know I used to collect figurines of horses as a child. The experience … took my breath away. Both, literally and figuratively.

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It doesn’t matter that it’s two days after Vday, Happy Valentine’s Day, Adorners! And if you haven’t heard it lately, I love you all 😉

* Photography by my good friend Domonique Boss! Thank you, girly!

Martin Luther King & Queens 

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First things first, I’m a tourist! Hope you guys all read that in your best “Iggy” impersonation! Lol

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I told you all a few posts ago that I’m living in DC until May. I got accepted into American University’s Washington Semester Program so I’ll be heading to seminars and meeting media influencers all over DC. I’ve even had a class in the National Press Club! We’ll be meeting there a lot. My blog will somewhat transform into a lifestyle blog of some type for these few months.

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But enough about me, let’s talk Dr. King! Regardless of how you feel about him, today we remember Dr. King as a strong man of God that lead in the efforts of breaking the barriers of segregation. To celebrate his holiday, I got a group of friends together and we toured across DC all day. It’s crazy to think that decades ago, we wouldn’t be able to even be together just because of the differences of our skin color.

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Christmas Shoes

“Sir I wanna buy these shoes

For my mama please

It’s Christmas Eve and these shoes are just her size

Could you hurry, sir

Daddy says there’s not much time

You see,

She’s been sick for quite a while And I

know these shoes will make her smile And I

Want her to look beautiful

If mama meets Jesus tonight”

“The Christmas Shoes” is one of my favorite Christmas songs. I’m not a sentimental person but I could totally relate to this song. So, whenever it comes on, I go into deep thought, usually reminiscing of the past. As a child, I would listen to this song and tear up because I was that kid in the song – one that knew there was a possibility that her mother could meet Jesus at any given time.

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